Divorce Coaching
Divorce may be inevitable, but it is not necessary to have an adversarial outcome. Divorce coaching is a specialized service that specifically addresses the emotional issues during and resulting from a divorce. As a divorce coach, I provide support and useful feedback during this stressful time. I am your personal assistant. I provide a safe place to vent your frustrations, anger, and sadness. I assist you in whatever way I can to navigate the separation and/or divorce process. I also help you create a foundation for the best post-divorce life can possibly have.
Benefits of Separation and/or Pre-Divorce Coaching
- Be emotionally ready to make informed decisions
- Minimize the confusion and emotional distress of the divorce process (common legal processes such as serving of papers, initial orders, 4-way meetings, etc)
- Communicate more effectively
- Participate constructively in the divorce negotiations
- Gain insight into divorce related issue
- Examine parenting and co-parenting issues so you create an honorable, and emotionally safe resolution for you children
- Develop skills so that you and your ex-spouse can work together post divorce in a coordinated fashion
Divorce Recovery Coaching
"So I’m divorced…now what do I do with my life?”
Now that you are divorced it’s time to create positive changes in your life. Divorce recovery coaching can assist you in moving beyond merely “getting over” your divorce. Don’t spend years trying to figure out how to get your life back on track. As your divorce recovery coach, I will provide information, tools, support, and encouragement so that you can live a full, happy, and joyful life.
Benefits of Divorce Recovery Coaching
- Get off the emotional roller coaster. Identify thoughts, patterns, and habits that may be keeping you stuck in anger, frustration, doubt, and fear
- Discover creative solutions to problems you may be facing
- Plan and move your life forward with confidence
- Recognize and manifest your inner gifts and talent
- Discover you true purpose in life and move in more rewarding directions in your life
- Take personal responsibility for your happiness and well-being
- Learn healthy relationship skills
- Rebuild self-trust and confidence
- Set healthy boundaries
- Make conscious decisions about your future
- Give yourself permission to live a life you can genuinely excited abou
I have a special interest in helping divorcing clients meet the challenges of one of life’s most difficult transitions. I offer special sensitivity and skills to support clients through an experience that involves loss and a wide range of emotions. I offer emotional support, communication skills, stress management skills, and parenting information. I help clients identify their needs, interests, and concerns and make decisions that best meet their own desires as well as the ongoing needs of their families.
The Three Divorces
Divorce is three-fold and divorce trauma can continue for a significant period long after the papers are signed.
The Legal Divorce
The legal divorce involves lawyers and judges. It is a time where spouses argue, fight and position themselves. Property, debts, and parenting plans are negotiated. It is where most of the money is spent and in most cases is the easiest part of the divorce process.
The Social Divorce
he social divorce involves friends and family, including your children. This process can drag on for years. Many friends and family have a difficult time accepting that you are no longer a couple. Social situations change. Some may cling to the idea that you will reunite while others may be more accepting of one and not the other. Occasional acquaintances may not know about your divorce so you may find yourself telling the story several years after the divorce. Remember, the social divorce is not your responsibility. It is for your family and friends to accept your divorce on their own schedule and in their own way.
The Emotional Divorce
This is the toughest of the three divorces. It requires that each individual come to grips with the ending of their marriage. They have to begin their life as “individuals” separate from their ex-spouse. This can be an emotionally painful time. This is a time of grieving.
In a divorce, there is usually a leaver and one who is left. The leaver may have begun the grieving process months or even years before the actual divorce. The leaver is usually impatient with delays and is often irritated by the lefts’ emotional issues. The one who was left typically begins treading through the emotional aspect of the divorce later due to an initial reaction of denial or disbelief. When the left finally begins the emotional divorce, it often races out of control. During this peak, emotional stage the left may exhibit bizarre irrational behaviors. Logic simply has no meaning and if out of control behaviors are not curtailed, both parties find themselves caught up in an incredibly irresponsible and mean-spirited process.
During and after divorce is a challenging time. It can be a mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical roller coaster ride. I encourage you to take this opportunity and let me help you “move on” and discover or rediscover yourself so that you can live your life with a strong, generous, and loving heart
Contact me for information about divorce coaching. I can help.
Ellen Hitchcock
865-482-9252
ehitch@comcast.net